We’ve all been there – or at the very least, we’re all scared to be there. Our child eagerly tears up a gift from a parent, but before the torn wrapping paper even hits the floor, our once reasonable child takes an attitude: “It’s not what I wanted! “I already have one !” “I hate that!”
Of course, we’ve spent almost every day of the holiday season digging into their little heads that it’s “season of giving” and expanding the lessons of gratitude and generosity – but none of it has. of importance when a preschooler without an emotional filter does not. get the exact 50-piece Lego set they saw at the store three months earlier.
Many parents turn to the same process they’ve probably used when planning a wedding or preparing a baby.
What should an embarrassed parent do? Well, besides continuing to teach their children the merits of social decorum, many are turning to the same process they probably used when planning a wedding or preparing a baby. They create records for their children’s Christmas gifts.
Of course, it’s not uncommon for parents to share a handwritten list of beloved toys with grandparents who want to choose the perfect gift, but this new trend takes it to a whole new level – one in which, with the click of a mouse, your contact list can see the 60 or so toys your kids crave the most.
Online and traditional retailers have all jumped on this expanded approach to gift registries. Amazon allows users to create a “wish list” which they can then share with others. Walmart has a similar list and Target has records for every celebration imaginable, including one with an app that’s devoted to children. On the site, it is noted that “Whatever the occasion, a children’s wish list allows you to collect all of your child’s favorites in one place for easy sharing with friends and family.” And, of course, niche registry sites – like Kinderlist and Gift, which has nearly a million members and promises to offer a “simpler way to give and give gifts without anxiety” – allows you to make a list with products from a multitude of different stores or even intangible experiences.
But, if one thing can be said about marriage records, they are rife with etiquette missteps. The same goes for these child-specific registers – some people love the concept while others scorn the tone it sets.
The benefits of a Christmas gift list
For parents who create these registers, it is an opportunity to let friends and family know exactly what their child wants, and for many loved ones, they just prefer to know what to buy rather than trying to guess. . For many people who don’t have children of the same age, it can be stressful to figure out, say, what a 6 year old is these days. Is this Frozen Where Avengers? Picture books or chapter books? A registry with specific marks can avoid worrying about the success of the giveaway.
A registry can also stop gendered gifts. It’s not unusual for girls to receive more dolls and crafts and boys to receive more miniature cars and action figures – and often donors don’t realize they’re playing into a stereotype that may not be. not represent your child. By creating a list, you can help point them in the right direction for your particular child. In reality, Kinderlist deliberately allows users to search by price, age, environmental friendliness, and interest while not actively offering the option to filter by gender.
For waste reduction enthusiasts, records help prevent the overflow of waste that can inevitably follow unwanted toys and their packaging.
Plus, a ledger keeps track of when a gift was purchased, eliminating the annoyance of duplicate gifts – a common problem when parents tell anyone who asks for the same five things their child “is right now.” As useful as it may be on a small scale, when you have a dozen people buying a child it can mean a lot of Moana Hungry Hungry Hippos dolls or board games.
Concerns with a Christmas gift list
For many, the mere idea of signing up for the holidays seems to go against the Christmas spirit. And while many people would be happy to receive strict guidelines when shopping, others hate it – they prefer to seek out a gift that speaks to them that they think a child might appreciate. For them, it’s much more personal to give as a gift a game they liked to play when they were little, or a puzzle they would like to work on with the recipient one afternoon.
For many, the mere idea of signing up for the holidays seems to go against the Christmas spirit.
Plus, a hidden benefit of off-register “surprise” gifts is that your child might end up discovering a new interest or ability. If a kid only asks for Pixar DVDs and ends up getting a rock painting kit, he or she may not like it at first, sure, but there is also a priceless opportunity to experience something new. It also allows donors who know a thing or two about childhood development (ahem, seasoned teachers and parents!)
While online records can include small-scale brands and unique items like those found on Etsy, this presents limitations for those who would rather do something on their own, bring back a gift from a recent trip, go shopping. at their favorite local store, or present a heirloom. Another frustration for those who enjoy the act of giving? Sitting at the computer and entering a credit card number before ordering a toy that will be shipped directly to the recipient without a special card or packaging appears sterile and impersonal.
What to consider if you plan to make a Christmas gift list
The idea of a children’s Christmas registry will frustrate some family members no matter what, but if you’re determined to avoid embarrassing gift-opening behaviors this season, there are a few ways to make sure your register sends the correct message:
- Send it only on request. Most people will tell you if they would like some help with gift ideas. For those who ask, you apparently have carte blanche to share a link to your child’s registry. This way you also don’t force gift givers to join your list, nor do you pressure, for example, a colleague or first cousin to buy a gift that they don’t. had honestly not planned to do so in the first place. .
- Include a wide range of prices. A children’s vacation registry should have the bulk of items firmly in the “affordable” zone. For the most part, it’s $ 10 to $ 30. It’s fine to have big-ticket items – a good option for those who like to give group gifts – but they shouldn’t be the bulk of what’s listed.
- Emphasize that the list is only a starting point. If you are when sending the register en masse, it might be interesting to include a note explaining that these giveaways are just an inspiration board, so to speak, or a sample of ideas to help anyone who may or may not be able to make gifts. shopping for your child. This way, those who want to do their vacation shopping fast can click to buy while others can rate all Minecraft items and go looking for the perfect video game inspired gift.
- Manage your child’s expectations. If your child is familiar with the registry, and especially if it helps select or analyze items, they should understand that this does not mean that they will get everything in it. Do your best to remind them that they must appreciate every gift, big or small, requested or unexpected, that it really is the thought that counts.
Are children’s “wish list” registers useful or obnoxious?
They are useful. . . and they take the pressure off!
They are just in bad shape! This is not the point of the holidays.