PITTSBURGH (KDKA) — The countdown to Mother’s Day is on, and so is the mounting pressure to deliver.
However, did you know that there is an etiquette for Mother’s Day?
Well, it does, and here’s how you can screw it all up – by inaction or by listening but not interpreting the signs correctly.
If mom says all she wants for Mother’s Day is “peace and quiet,” pay attention.
“I wouldn’t honor her by disappearing from her life, I wouldn’t honor her by leaving them truly alone,” Daniel Post Senning said.
Daniel Post Senning is the great-great-grandson of manners specialist Emily Post.
“Like, if I imagined breakfast in bed with a bouquet of wildflowers and a note or a poem, I could go on to say hey, I’m going to take the kids and we’re going to give you a morning to relax and s ‘fun,’ he said.
With a name like Post, Daniel knows her etiquette when it comes to Mother’s Day and the pressure that comes with it.
“Since we’re talking about the family scale, let’s turn the volume up to 11,” he said.
Post says it’s not just about your mother, what about your stepmother if you’re married?
“She might or might not be your favorite person in your life, but I guarantee it’s an important relationship for just about everyone, and what a rich opportunity to invest a little in that relationship,” explained Post.
Your wife may not be your mother, but if you have children, Post said he would look into working with the children to help honor wife and family on Mother’s Day. mothers.
He also said you don’t have to go broke on vacation.
“Show them you care, and a gift doesn’t have to be expensive to be important,” he said.
If there has been a recent loss of a mother, this is amplified on Mother’s Day.
“I think a first Mother’s Day without someone could be a real opportunity to connect with family, friends and relatives and other people who might also experience this day a little differently,” Post said. .
Mother’s Day is lucky, whether it’s your mother, mother-in-law, wife or daughter, it’s more than a Hallmark party. It’s a chance to honor them for all they do and a chance to really make a mistake if you don’t do the right thing.
So what do you get, and what if you’re on a budget?
“[It’s] the less the specific thing you choose and the more you put effort into it and invest some part of yourself in it,” Post said.
“Give someone a little respite or a little break from their routine if it’s something they’re looking forward to,” Post said. “[Or] a small word but which comes from you. It’s personal that refers to something unique in the relationship you share with someone can go a long way, it’s a very personal gift.”
If the children are small, the flowers and sweets might not be necessary.
“Who knows, that bouquet of dandelions from your kid might just be the thing you’ll remember for a long time,” he said.
The more personal, the better, and the heart almost always outweighs the expense.